I'm a pretty open-minded mom, and I have allowed my kids a lot of freedom growing up. Now that I look back on it, I was probably too liberal at times, but it's too late to change courses now. What's done is done. Along with this open-mindedness comes dialogue like the following, which occurred on Mother's Day this year:
Twenty year-old college student daughter: "Hey mom, remember those thong underwear you bought me at Victoria's Secret? Boyfriend (name being withheld to protect his privacy) really liked them."
Me: "Great! - I'm glad to hear that!"
Actually, I'm not quite sure of my exact reaction. I know that it was one of those moments of hearing just a little too much information for a mom and wanting to hold my fingers in my ears and shout "LALALALALA" at the same time to drown out the details.
Considering she is twenty and living on her own, I really don't have a huge problem with this, but it's one of those topics that maybe should stay secret and not be shared between mother and daughter. On the one hand, I'm glad she feels so free to tell me this. On the other hand, however, there are some things best left out of the conversation with Mom on Mother's Day.
Somehow I imagined Mother's Day to be calm and tranquil with my darling older kids cooking a wonderful meal for me and none of the kids swearing at each other, and definitely not telling me about their boyfriend's approval of the underwear purchase.
Then I was jolted back to reality with the fact that I have teenagers and twenty-year olds, and somehow things just aren't the same anymore. I cooked them a wonderful meal while they sat on the couch and watched TV, frantically texting the friends they couldn't be with that day.
Ahh, the joys of Motherhood.
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